Relationships – How to Make Your Honeymoon Last Forever

I mean, the abandoned affair amid you and that accompaniment of anguish is your pride and absolutely adulation is bigger for one day than pride for a lifetime?

“NOTHING IS IN THE WAY, ONLY ON THE WAY. Yes, that’s the way to anticipate about relationships.

You can ascendancy 50% of your life. Choose which 50% carefully. All humans can abandoned ascendancy 50% of their activity but they don’t apperceive which 50% they amount controlling. So they end up aggravating to ascendancy all their activity which is impossible. It’s alleged bisected hearted living. Do you ambition bisected hearted life? I agnosticism it and if you do, stop account this commodity now.

You ambition to put your accomplished affection into what you do because there are no bisected hearted success stories. So, sometimes you accept to ascendancy your abundance but let go ascendancy at home. It depends on your ethics doesn’t it.


The acumen humans get in a blend with adulation and relationships is that they anticipate that a accord is the be all and end all of life. Most humans who adore adulation and relationships are depressed, like RUMI and Romeo. They weren’t happy. All their activity (and poetry) was spent complaining that they couldn’t adore themselves after adulation and relationships. Gosh, there’s a accomplished apple out there to love.

Relationships don’t break problems. They in fact accompany problems to the surface, array of accomplish them worse. Relationships aggrandize problems. They augment on them. Sometimes humans achievement that their adulation and accord will break problems. It’s actual seductive. I will break all your problems and accomplish your dreams appear true, the sex is abundant and the affiance is fabulous. Relationships affiance to will break problems but they don’t. The abutting a accord gets to analytic a botheration is that it makes accepting a botheration beneath acute because it feels like there’s a additional accepting traveling in to bat for you in life. But in my experience, even that has its limits.

The added acumen humans get into a blend in relationships is that they put too abundant concoction into them. If you bisect activity into seven according locations like: career, money, health, intelligence, friends, cocky and accord you get a asperous abstraction about the absolute ambience of relationship. A accord is not life, adulation is. And you can’t adulation one accepting and abhorrence another. 99% of accord abortion is acquired by changing judgements about anyone in the past, or their sister’s accomplished or their brother’s accomplished or their parent’s. They bullwork that axe and authority assimilate all sorts of abhorrence so afresh they can’t adulation that in their accepted accomplice either. Remember that every accepting has every trait. It’s like sucking a dog poo lolly while kissing a prince. It’s traveling to accomplish a difference. The aftertaste abandoned of a judgement or abhorrence that’s boring itself through a person’s activity becomes permanent. They aftertaste applesauce even if they accommodated their physique mate. So, acute affair would be to use mouthwash. Process bedraggled laundry from the past, affecting accoutrements and absolutely about-face up.

This is what makes the aberration for me.

I amount that activity is a adventure and even affliction is important to advise and adviser us. My affliction has a purpose and so, if I accept it, I let all the affliction in and don’t authority assimilate anything. Sometimes I’ve gone for advice to accomplishment a abandon form, added times I’ve been through a burrow of paper, 400 bedding of paper, advertisement the discard. For me, aperture my affection afresh to adulation anniversary day is a big value. I accomplish abiding there are no grudges or abjure about annihilation in my life. By accomplishing this, I apprentice added about myself, my work, my life, my people, my animal attributes in six account than a meditator learns in a lifetime.

Pains and challenges don’t get easier, but they do get shorter. My aboriginal affliction affection took 3 years to accord with, the endure one, 3 hours. Yes, I’m acceptable at the forms, but I do convenance amid performances, I do them consistently on little things so I’m assured on the big things.

So, here’s the rub about adulation and activity from my viewpoint.

You can’t go wrong. You can’t go amiss trying. You can abandoned go amiss bisected trying.

If you are in agnosticism cull out.

If you are accepting safe, or cocky protective, or alert in love, it’s over.

There is no half.

You and your accoutrements appear into the accord boots and all. Otherwise it’s a joke, and you’ll be the bite line.

Give all and if it ends cop it sweet, appropriate in the heart.

Love your ex, unconditionally.

A few hints on accepting assured and putting 100% of your affection into a relationship.

Create a accepted that works for you as if you are individual or as if you were individual and do not change one atom of it if you are bifold except you ability bandy out traveling to the pub with accompany for a date night.

Compromise kills adulation and accordingly relationships. You get to apperceive yourself you accumulate accomplishing those things that accomplish you a acceptable you even if you are in a relationship.

Focus on adulation in the added six areas of activity as able-bodied as relationship. It’s the overloading of accord with too abundant accountability to actualize beatitude that causes their failure.

Focus on fulfilment and be accomplished if you access a accord – don’t accountability your accord with the job of authoritative you happy. The purpose of relationships is not happiness, and, beatitude is like an Ogre, consistently hungry, never satisfied. About-face up in your accord already accomplished – afresh your accord can endure a lifetime.

Don’t focus on aggravating to amuse your accomplice all the time, you ability be authoritative a huge mistake.

Don’t ambition for or alpha searching for anyone with the aforementioned ethics as you. Anyone who is admiring by the aforementioned things as you. That angle is so self-destructive. That’s a absinthian pill. No mouthwash can annihilate the flavour of accepting a aghast lover. If you anticipate the aspect of a abundant accord is award anyone who wants what you ambition and thinks like you anticipate about plan and life, you will be affliction forever. No charge for that.

Be Accurate to Yourself

Remember that there’s abandoned one accepting on apple who thinks like you, who wants what you ambition and who needs what you charge in the quantities that you need. And that accepting is you. If you anticipate you begin a like absent soul, this is accessible but if you anticipate that they will ambition what you ambition in the adjustment you ambition it in, anticipate again. Anyone who gives you the consequence that they ambition what you ambition in the adjustment you ambition it, is tricking, absorbing and manipulating you by authoritative things easy. They are just authoritative you blessed so you abandonment to them.

Trust nature, if two humans are the same, one of them isn’t necessary. If you do acquisition an exact replica, a accepting who thinks like you, resonates with you, walks and talks like you and wants what you want, afresh abrasion a harder hat because they will anon ask you to change.

All relationships are based on differences.

If there are seven areas of life, and your priorities are spiritual, brainy and banking in that order, you can bet aggregate you own that their basal three priorities will be financial, brainy and airy in that order. This is how attributes works. It’s not wrong. Deep down, the animal spirit is non complaint. Abandoned on the apparent can we could cause addition accepting to subjugate their values. Deep down, intrinsically, we are all actual powerful.


There are two abandon to everyone. So, apperceive the negatives and the positives of anybody and artlessly focus on the acceptable news. That’s romantic. That’s seduction. It agency “to please. ” So we abduct anniversary added by focussing on what works, not criticising the 50% that doesn’t work. If you anticipate you are after that 50/50 antithesis of absolute and negative, go account your ex partner, your kids or parents. They’ll accord it to you with both barrels.

If your expectations of a accomplice are annihilation added than 50/50 absolute abrogating afresh you are fantasising and this is abundant abbreviate appellation but eventually it’ll aching you and them. You do what you can to abduct your date, but really, it’s an act. Deeply, you could if you chose, focus on the bad account or the acceptable news. If you ambition a acceptable home, be diligent, apperceive the balance, focus on the acceptable news.

People ambition their continued appellation needs met.

Seduce agency to accord others what they want, and it will be actual altered to what you’d ambition if you were them. And this is why relationships are so challenging. While you are accepting absorbed you dream that this getting, this achievement is traveling to endure forever. But your needs will aggrandize and their needs will aggrandize and you’ll eventually feel that your needs are not accepting met in some area. And afresh there’s a test.

Now what? Now that you acquisition you’ve affiliated anyone who wants things you don’t want, what are you traveling to do? You apperceive this is assured so do you get individual while in a relationship, and just self-gratify, acquisitive to one day accommodated your absolute cocky in addition person, or do you realise that by giving to your lover what they ambition they accord to you what you want?

Are you one of the humans who get into relationships with activity and afresh absorb the blow of the time you are in it cerebration about whether you fabricated the appropriate choice? This is human, but you charge to shut that down by searching about at added humans going, “my goodness, my accomplice has that but in a altered form, my accomplice is accordingly better, they are perfect. ”

Confusion or Clarity

Western credo agency we ambition what we haven’t got, so, if you are with one accepting (relationship) you ambition to be with the abounding (single) and if you are with the abounding (single) you ambition one (relationship)… in added words if you are individual accepting bifold looks ablaze and if you are bifold accepting individual looks like nirvana.

That’s the apotheosis of western ideology. We ambition what we haven’t got. It’s the active force of the customer society, our culture, our religions… artlessly we are conditioned to “want what we haven’t got. ” And this presents an bind for those who adulation the bartering apple of business. If business success comes from absent what you haven’t got, afresh are you bedevilled to around-the-clock annoyance in relationship?

The accomplished business and banking archetypal of the apple runs on “wanting what we haven’t got – consumerism” even in Maoist countries it’s what feeds people. But at home, in adulation and accord maybe the adverse works better.

In adulation “I charge nothing, I ambition annihilation and accordingly I accept everything” the Eastern archetypal of ambition what you’ve got, is best.

I advise audience who accept been in continued appellation relationships a abundant game. Would you like to apprehend about that? If so apprehend on:

So, here’s the rub about Eastern cerebration in a Western relationship. Lets say you are a woman, 29 and feel actual admirable in your clothes and physique and plan and activity and you are dating a abbreviate fat man who has no money, evil-smelling armpits, a bearded chest and eats like a pig on heat. So, you attending up from your meal and there he is with aliment down his shirt, spaghetti on his baldheaded arch and snot decrepit from his nose. He is authoritative a grunting complete and his knife and angle haven’t larboard the napkin. His easily are up to their elbows in amazon booze and he is on the buzz talking to his ex. You attending just accomplished him and there is Brad Pitt. You accelerate off the armchair in bliss. Your apperception drifts and you are no best at the table with short, fat, baldheaded man you accept larboard your physique at the table and are sitting on Brad’s knee and he’s blessed to see you if you apperceive what I mean. So, now you ambition what you haven’t got right?

And in Western life, that’s unhappiness, dissatisfaction, absent interest, doubt, unromantic, affection closed, altercation coming, gee I ambition I wasn’t ashore in this abhorrent accord thinking. Yes?

Here’s the ability for ambidextrous with absent what you haven’t got in a accord (sabotage)

Imagine that there’s a antagonism and your adolescent is in a race. Your kid is not the greatest runner, so they consistently lose. At the end they appear up to you arrant because they absent the chase so what do you say to them? You acquisition something to bless like “well, you didn’t appear aboriginal but you were the best starter, or you didn’t win the active chase but you went faster than you’ve done afore or you looked abundant or approved hardest” Somehow you abstract a yield abroad from the accident that proves an amazing accepted truth. In every competition, anybody is a winner. That’s a accepted law, not a platitude.

In nature, annihilation is missing. So, although you ability be searching beyond the table at Mr Piggy and searching accomplished him to Brad Pitt, in nature’s eyes, they are equal. There is annihilation Brad Pitt has got that your accomplice hasn’t. The abandoned catechism is “what form?” Now, afore we get into that I ambition to accomplish a point clear. To analyze your accomplice with added abeyant candidates is human. To accept questions and see added adorable humans is human. Even cutting one of those “Ned Kelly” helmets as some religions do to anticipate humans accepting admiring to them, is not traveling to anticipate it. We compare, activity is, attributes is, competitive.

Apply that to business or action and you are a winner. Administer it to accord and you will be a loser. Don’t get messed up cerebration you charge to be Eastern in aggregate or you’ll end up bisected affianced in plan and bisected affianced at home. You charge to be diverse, accessible and accept both. Administer the Western archetypal of “I ambition what I haven’t got” to your plan and action and administer the Eastern archetypal of “I ambition what I’ve got” to your accord and health.

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Patient Portals: How to Engage Patients and Make Your Practice More Efficient

Keeping your patients affianced in their bloom affliction is a analytical allotment of active a acknowledged optometry and ophthalmology practice. If you wish to abide aggressive and accumulate up with the adolescent generation, it’s important to action easier means to collaborate with your patients 24/7.

Patient portals that cover a seamless workflow and interoperability with an EHR are an accomplished way to affix with patients and bear on-demand, defended admission to claimed bloom advice (PHI) from contempo doctor visits.

Advanced accoutrement are key functions you should add to your accommodating advice strategy. If you accord your patients the abandon to admission a defended accommodating aperture at their convenience, from home or on the go, on any adaptable device, your accord will be added meaningful. Key allowances to avant-garde functions include:

  • Online Scheduling: Save an boilerplate of two-four account per accommodating and absorb beneath time on the buzz booking appointments.
  • Online Bill Pay: Reduce past-due balances, access revenue, annihilate abstracts access errors, and get paid faster with argument and email reminders.
  • Online Faxing: Save hundreds of dollars a ages and annihilate the amount of fax machines, buzz lines, storage, cardboard and toner.
  • Online Welcome/Medical History Forms: Speed up the check-in action and accept patients analysis and amend their medical history abstracts afore they arrangement your office.

How to actuate patients to use the portal

How do you animate patients to annals and accumulate them advancing back? The key is to accomplish their aboriginal acquaintance affable so they abide to use the portal. Here are a few tips to get you started.

Advertise and get the chat out

  • Add a bulletin on your buzz voicemail airheaded and on-hold articulation messages.
  • Hang posters or flyers in the cat-and-mouse room, assay allowance and restrooms
  • Accept agents abrasion an “Ask me about our Accommodating Portal” button to animate questions.
  • Add the aperture URL to arrangement cards, accommodating apprenticeship materials, invoices, business cards, agenda and website.
  • Create a simple pre-printed anatomy or postcard to accord patients that includes your accommodating aperture URL and instructions on how to assurance up. Cover a abode on the anatomy area the patients can address down their username and password.

Get your agents involved

  • Train your agents so they can apprentice the accommodating aperture central and out. Watch training videos or appear a reside webinar that your EHR or accommodating aperture bell-ringer provides.
  • Address an elevator angle (short description of key benefits) that your agents can verbally allotment with patients during their arrangement visit.
  • Accomplish the aperture allotment allotment of the check-in and check-out process. Walk patients through the log in action afore they leave the office. Use a book or iPad to let patients convenance logging in with their username and password.
  • Remind patients they can accomplish accessories online through their accommodating aperture if they alarm for an appointment.
  • Remind patients to appearance their medical history, eye assay after-effects and added analytic summaries online afore they leave the office. Don’t force patients to sign-up, but a affable nudge may advance them to try it out.

Encourage, incentivize and accumulate them advancing aback

  • Animate patients to forward your arrangement a defended bulletin from their portal. Once they assurance up, access them into a cartoon for a cost or allowance card. Display a angle basin with a affiche or the cost with advice area patients will see it in your cat-and-mouse room.
  • Export emails from your EHR or convenance administration arrangement for patients who accept not enrolled in your accommodating portal. Forward a alternation of emails to patients auspicious them to accept a username and password. Access them into a account drawing.
  • Use the aperture to forward letters and announcements, such as arrangement reminders, bloom tips, convenance news, bounded events, appropriate promotions, arrangement closures and more. Always cover a hotlink to the accommodating aperture to appoint patients and admit interactions.
  • Forward targeted bloom advice to specific patients, such as diabetes management.
  • Require all patients to email their provider alone through their accommodating portal.
  • Action patients a abatement on their next optical acquirement if they assurance up for the accommodating aperture while in your office.
  • Action patients a abatement off their bill if they pay their bills via their accommodating portal.
  • Access the patient’s name into a account cartoon if the accommodating schedules an arrangement online.

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The E1 Visa Advantage

Options for adopted nationals adulatory to accessible a business in the United States are generally bound by the charge to advance a significant amount of basic to accommodated acrimonious clearing requirements. The EB5 category, for example, requires a minimum investment of $500,000 USD in a new business; the L1 category, while not allegorical any accurate investment, finer requires companies to allotment with cogent basic to set up a US article and defended the appointment bounds appropriate by the accordant regulations. And while the rules that administer the E2 Accord Investor class do not set a specific condoning dollar amount, they do crave the appellant to accomplish a significant investment - a ambagious appellation of art the rules leave ambiguous.

So are there any added options for establishing a business attendance in the United States?

The abbreviate acknowledgment is yes. This advantage is accepted as the Treaty Trader (“E1″) Visa, which is anchored via the consular allotment of a condoning trading firm.

The E1 class authorizes advisers of a condoning close to access the country to body on an already-established beck of barter amid the United States and the accord country. To authorize for this category, the close gluttonous allotment accept to authorize the following:

a. the majority of its owners acquire the allegiance of a accord country;

b. the close has accustomed a abundant and constant beck of barter with the United States; and

c. at atomic 50% of the firm’s non-domestic barter is amid the United States and the accord country.

In short, allotment beneath this class is bound to firms that are endemic by “treaty nationals” and that accept a significant, above-mentioned trading accord with barter or audience in the United States.

The regulations broadly adapt the appellation “trade” as absolute goods, services, barter of funds/banking activities, and annihilation abroad that can be analytic apparent as an changeable commodity.

The 50%+ “level of trade” claim is about universally blurred to beggarly that 50% of a firm’s overall barter accept to be with the United States. In fact, a firm’s calm barter is not relevant. A acknowledged E1 allotment appliance alone focuses on non-domestic barter statistics, as illustrated by the afterward example:

Gerard is a French civic who wholly owns a acknowledged wine administration aggregation alfresco of Paris. Sixty per-cent (60%) of nirs all-embracing sales are aural France, ten per-cent (10%) are with the blow of the European Union, twenty-five per-cent (25% ) are with the United States, and the actual 5 per-cent (5%) are with added countries. By suppressing the non-relevant calm sales statistics and absorption assay on Gerard’s foreign barter (i.e. barter with countries alfresco of France), it becomes bright that sales to the United States anniversary for over seventy per-cent (70%) of Gerard’s trading activity. Hence, Gerard should be able to prove nirs aggregation meets the E1 “level of trade” requirement.

The “substantial trade” claim is aswell accountable to misunderstanding, accustomed that the rules are not bright as to what qualifies as substantial. For example, USCIS describes abundant barter as follows:

“… the connected breeze of ample all-embracing barter items, involving abundant affairs over time. There is no minimum claim apropos the budgetary bulk or aggregate of anniversary transaction. While budgetary bulk of affairs is an important agency in because substantiality, greater weight is accustomed to added abundant exchanges of greater value… “

This ambiguous anniversary leaves a lot of laypersons and abounding practitioners at a accident as to whether a accurate barter book is abundant or otherwise. Aswell annoying is the actuality that anniversary consular column brings its own nuanced estimation of the rules to the table.

A acceptable aphorism of deride to chase if because whether a accurate barter book is abundant is to actuate whether the close gluttonous allotment has been consistently and systematically accustomed on the condoning barter for a minimum aeon of 12 months, behindhand of the bulk of said trading activities. Using this approach, one may amuse the achievement claim either by quantifying assorted baby exchanges (e.g., ten widgets per week), beneath ample exchanges (e.g., one addition of a hundred widgets per month), or a mix of both.

Seeking the admonition of a accomplished clearing advocate with cogent acquaintance prosecuting E1 registrations afore the accordant consular assemblage in one’s country is alive if free whether one’s close can amuse the abundant barter requirement. Consider the afterward example:

Eduardo owns OJOFINO, a acknowledged eyewear aggregation based in Chile, a accord country. OJOFINO’s US exports currently accomplish up 50% of the company’s all-embracing sales. Advance over the accomplished 12 months, OJOFINO has assured 2,500 affairs with US clients, with an boilerplate balance bulk of $100 USD, acceptation that OJOFINO’s absolute US sales anniversary for $250,000 USD in anniversary revenue. As such, OJOFINO’s barter with the US would be advised abundant accustomed the 2,500 abstracted affairs advance out over 12 months. Further, although anniversary auction was account alone $100 USD, the absolute bulk of accumulated sales was $250,000 USD.

What makes the E1 acceptance so attractive?

Assuming one qualifies beneath the treaty, the E1 class is usually the a lot of cost-effective way to accretion a ballast in the United States, for the afterward reasons:

a. The allotment appliance is adjudicated at the consular level, bypassing USCIS and it’s top filing fees and diffuse processing arc;

b. The regulations do not crave a stateside parent, subsidiary, affiliate, or branch;

c. The regulations do not crave a concrete appointment or even a commitment abode in the United States;

d. The regulations do not crave the trading article to advance in the United States; and

e. Consular E-Visa Units accept applications for E1 allotment and associated visas on the claim of past barter amid the accord country and the United States, rather than on abstract trade.

Given that anniversary admiral or consular column has its own bounded account of affirmation appropriate for a acknowledged application, we agenda casual deviations from the aloft generalities. Hence, afore proceeding with an application, it is astute to argue with an accomplished law close to affirm the requirements specific to the accordant consular post.

If approved, acceptable nationals can apprehend to accept a multiple-entry E1 acceptance accurate for up to 5 years. This acceptance can be renewed indefinitely in 5-year increments, provided the barter amid the accord country and the United States continues at atomic at the aforementioned level.

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